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Sunday, 10 March 2013

My son is a quandary

Over the last 9 days there have been some truly amazing moments with Seth. Last Friday I swam with Seth at school. I never get to do this anymore due to working and it was very lucky that I could. Seth hasn't swum since well before Christmas (it keeps getting cancelled due to the lack of staff to support it) and it is such an essential element of Seth's timetable....but I digress. We swam and I loved it and he loved it. The really amazing moment was when the person running the class threw balls into the pool for the children to fetch. She held out Seth's first ball close to him and then threw it to his right. He turned his head to watch the ball fly past. Then she did it again to his left and he again followed it's progress. I was so excited! Then when we made our way to them he actually stretched his arm out a little and pushed them back to the side. He wasn't doing any of that when I last swam with him and I was very proud. I discovered that he had goals for the swimming lessons and he had just met 2 of them.

Then this Friday I picked Seth up from my parents. He was sitting on their sofa with a toy phone in front of him. You press the buttons and they light up and play music. He was actually hitting the buttons and activating it and having a real giggle. This was pretty cool in itself and quite a new thing. I wanted a cuddle so I picked up the toy and moved it to one side...and Seth actually watched the toy as it moved and then stared at it next to him. So I gave it back to him and he carried on playing with it. I've never seen Seth show that level of interest in anything other than food before. I was amazed; I moved a toy and Seth actually gave a damn.

Saturday morning was horse riding and I watched the people that walk with Seth hand him a little flag to carry. Let me explain; I watched them hold it out to him and he reached his hand slightly forward, opened his hand and closed his fist round it. It happened so casually and then they moved on. While I'm left standing there watching from the side needing to wipe tears away. Seth just doesn't normally extend his arms or open his hands to grasp things. He certainly has been doing it more recently but they are usually quite clumsy moves.

Then today I was giving him a drink. Because it is difficult for him to control fluids we only hold the bottle up to his mouth for very short periods at a time so he doesn't have a constant flow of liquid to choke on. So I keep asking him 'more?' and then he has to reach out and touch the bottle to indicate he wants more. After a while I though he might have had enough so I asked 'finished?'. Now this usually ends up as guesswork and I only know if he is because I take the drink away and he doesn't kick off. But today he signed 'finished'. He put the edges of his fists together. This is such an unfamiliar gesture for him that it was very clear what he was doing. Plus to confirm it he wasn't bothered when his drink was put away.

All this in less than 2 weeks. I am blown away by everything Seth is doing. The reason he is a quandary? Because in between these flashes of brilliance he mostly communicates his wishes by throwing a crying and shouting fit and I usually have no idea what it is he wants. It drives me crazy and yet.....Friday he calmly shows me how he wants to continue playing with a toy and today he signs for the very first time he's finished with this drink.